At a dress size 18-20, and with a lifetime of experience between the sheets, I can smugly say: fit men prefer fat women. Don't believe me?. Well, at the age of 50, I'm still having a far richer sex life than many of my slimmer friends. When we get together for a few glasses of wine, I often provide a sympathetic ear to those who lament their lack of action in the bedroom, and it's often because their sexual self-confidence has taken a nose-dive as they age.
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I've never had this problem. Even though we larger ladies are constantly told we shouldn't love our bodies, I can tell you that men certainly do – and my sexual self-esteem has always been sky high because of it. Having reached my half century, I'm still happily swinging from the chandeliers with a (new-ish) man who, to our mutual delight, weighs rather less than my 15-and-a-half stone.
What is it that men find so irresistible? The obvious physical attributes, of course, but also my lack of hang-ups about them. The men I have been with have never been bothered about my big boobs, wobbly thighs, jiggly buttocks or round tummy. And so I never have either.
In fact, despite what diet culture might want women to believe, it's these very wobbly bits that they find so alluring. I once had a supremely fit lover who had only ever dated slender gym bunnies. On our first night together, he stopped mid-lovemaking to marvel at my body, as if he was seeing a decadent dessert after a lifetime of salads. He told me I was the best lover he'd had in years. We couldn't get enough of each other.
