The six biggest red flags your man’s cheating & how to spot them, according to a professional love rat detective

A PROFESSIONAL love rat catcher has revealed the biggest red flags that women should always look out for. Not only this, but she also revealed the typical gaslighting behaviour that should never be overlooked. So if you’re worried that you’re being cheated on, or aren’t totally sure if your man is the right guy for you, then you’ll need to pay attention and take notes.

On the Ex-Wives Undercover: Liars, Cheaters & Love Cons podcast, on a bonus episode titled ‘Spilling the Tea on Cheaters’, TikTok sensation MadelinetheREAL got candid on how to know if your man is cheating. Savvy seductress Madeline Smith, known for her iconic ‘Loyalty Tests’, has made honey trapping a lucrative business.

The 'professional loyalty tester' is paid by women to message their partners, to find out if they will be unfaithful if given the opportunity. Within a couple of clicks, you can choose to test your partner on Instagram (£35), Facebook (£35) or via text (£60).

Madeline first got into this unusual line of work after first testing the loyalty of a few of her friends' boyfriends. Then, when she was 27, her fiance suggested she start posting about her services on TikTok. And now, lucky for those not feeling too confident in their relationship, the blonde bombshell, who has 225,300 followers and 5.2 million likes on TikTok, has revealed the biggest red flags that could expose your man’s infidelity.

The go-to woman for busting cheaters claimed that there is a very common thread amongst most of the partners of the women who reach out to her. She stressed: “The commonalities are; they’ve done something in the past, they’re secretive with their phone, they have Snapchat, they tell them that they’re insecure when they have a problem.”.

Not only this, but she recognised that unfaithful men are also “usually following risqué women online and get angry anytime they want to talk about something.”. In addition to this, Madeline added: “The typical signs are secrecy with the phones. There’s so many avenues and subtle, nuisance ways to gaslight someone.

"I always find it wild when people are married and don’t know their partners’ passcodes. “Or they won’t put that they’re in a relationship with them on Facebook, things like that.”. Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.

They start to take their phone everywhere with them. In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something. Aaron says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.".

"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.". They start telling you less about their day. When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.". "Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.

Their libido changes. Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron. Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating.  You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before.".

They become negative towards you. Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify. "To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere.  Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime.  A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.

And when it comes to recognising a gaslighter - someone who employs a psychological manipulation technique that causes a person to doubt their reality, thoughts, or feelings - this love guru highlighted: “There’s so many avenues and subtle, nuisance ways to gaslight someone.”.