Only in the past three years, when doing more research around BDSM, did we realise there is a name for this – “free use” – and that I have given him a blanket consent to sex.
For example, at the beginning Frank would check if I wanted to have sex and I told him just go for it, you never need to check with me.
We have a free use agreement where she doesn’t refuse sex, but I know not to take advantage of that, and she trusts me not to tell her to do anything she wouldn’t want to.
Outside sex, for example, Frank takes care of the house finances.
It was only when the kids went to university that we resumed having the kind of sex we’d had when we first met.
