I caught my husband of 9 years cheating using a baby monitor – then I found out something that made it worse

BABY monitors were invented to give parents reassurance and peace of mind. However, one woman was left shocked by what she overheard on her parenting gadget. In her post, the Reddit user explained how her baby monitor revealed a harsh truth about her relationship. She revealed that she often takes her 15-month-old son to her mum's while her husband works long hours. This time, she accidentally left one of her baby monitors switched on in the family home before leaving.

While minding their child, the Reddit user overheard a phone call her husband made. She recalled how he asked the person on the other end of the phone to "come over". The mum was even able to hear the response, which came from a female. "He said: ‘I love you baby’ and she said: ‘I love you too,'" the original poster said. "I also heard him say he’s off work tomorrow, he conveniently didn’t send me his schedule so I didn’t know.".

The Reddit user discovered that the affair had been going on for nine months. She confronted her husband and he claimed that he had cut all ties with his mistress before that night. "He said: ‘I’m here by myself, being faithful to you, why can’t you get over this?'" she said. The poster described how she felt "sick" being under the same roof as him. She revealed that her husband confirmed that he has had this other woman in their home and in their bed before.

As well as lying straight to his wife's face, the man proved he couldn't be loyal to anyone. His wife, who had been continuing to spy on him via the baby monitor, learned just how bad his cheating habit was. Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating. They start to take their phone everywhere with them. In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.". "You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.". They start telling you less about their day.

When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you. "If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.". "Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.

Their libido changes. Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron. Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating.  You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before.".

They become negative towards you. Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify. "To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere.  Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime.  A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.

"A couple days ago, he was on the phone with her, while talking to her he texted me," the Redditor explained. "Then, he got a call and said: 'Sorry baby, this is important, I have to take it.'". She revealed that the suspicious phone call was with his ex-girlfriend. "I know his girlfriend has no idea he’s talking to her too," she said. Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.

"I’d honestly start having your mom come there. Make it inconvenient as hell for him," suggested one reader. "He’s probably told her you split so no longer coming to your home will raise some red flags.". "Time to become a mother first and protect your child for their future," another commenter said. "Shut off wife mode and do everything you can to secure your baby's future.". "You've got to think long game. If you play along and get your ducks in order behind the scenes the fallout will be more beneficial for you," wrote a third person.