Secrets in a relationship are a huge red flag, so when one woman saw what was lurking on her husband's phone, she felt used. She explained that she and her husband have a "very irregular sex life," as he "claims low libido and takes Viagra for erectile dysfunction". So when she spotted a notification on his phone, the things weren't adding up. The wife explained that she'd "tried not to make an issue out of it and have compromised on once a month". She "tried to be understanding", as she thought her husband had some "anxieties around sex," but a notification on his phone changed her perception of the situation.
Taking to Mumsnet, she explained other than their "mismatched libidos," they "get on well" and even have a young child together. But when she "saw an alert pop up on his phone saying that his Only Fans subscription hasn't gone out due to him having a new card," she was "gutted". "I have told him he might want to look at sorting his card out as his OF payment of £14.95 hasn't come out. I said it's great to know you have no libido to have a healthy sex life with your wife, but you can happily pay strangers on the internet," she raged, wondering where she should "go from here".
Later on, she admitted: "To find out he actually does have a libido and is choosing to use it elsewhere is very painful." Someone asked: "Did he give you a reaction?" She shared: "Just sort of put his head down because he knows he's been caught out and there's not a lot he can say or do.". Another penned: "I couldn’t tolerate my husband watching OnlyFans. I know everyone’s different but it’s a massive no from me. My husband wouldn't, though, I have to add. He thinks it's rank".
One woman fumed: "Sorry but this would be the end of the road for me. You are a woman with needs that aren’t being met, but you have been understanding and patient, just as any good spouse would be. To find that he is obviously experiencing sexual urges but preferring to spend money (Ick!!!) on using those urges on strangers is just sickening. He’s a liar". Somebody even accused him of "cheating" because he was getting "sexual gratification" from "elsewhere" and paying for the privilege. "I'd struggle to get past this, to be honest, because it's basically a betrayal," a Mumsnetter admitted.
