Published in 2022 by some of the world’s leading researchers on human sexuality, this theory lays out how several gendered expectations placed on women (and men) serve to obliterate women’s sexual flourishing.
And at least a quarter of those women had been in situations like Zoe’s at some point – long term relationships where they felt there was “no space” for their needs or desires.
Therapists are trained not to be directive, says Dr Lori Brotto, a Canadian clinical and research psychologist who works with women experiencing low desire.
I finally have a teammate, an actual partner who picks up the slack without being asked, and who does things for us without being asked, and who takes control of situations without me having to tell him to.”.
Zoe is one of 55 women to have told me about her love life in the last two years.
