I lost my partner, but our relationship was a secret so I can’t talk to anyone | Ask Annalisa Barbieri You need to process your grief by letting other people in.
To even begin to deal with such huge emotions you need to be able to process them, and to be able to process them you need to start talking about them.
There is also the enormous loss of your son (and you didn’t say when this happened, so it may also be recently, hence particularly raw) which has compounded this grief.
“There is,” explained Gosling, “disfranchised grief here, the inability to mourn publicly, the inability to look at photos shows that mourning hasn’t happened, there is a stuck-ness to this.”.
The reality is (and this may make you furious, but in a way: good) your partner hid you from his other family for two decades, now leaving you in a state where you can’t share this.
