I don’t spend very much time with the man I’m dating, which I think sends a signal to his kid that I’m mostly a sexual partner (I would like more but am afraid of asking for it for fear of being turned down).
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I told my partner that I felt bad, but he said he didn’t think I was being loud and that he had already explained to his kid when they chose to live with him full-time that this would happen.
Recently, his kid began slamming doors and cupboards very loudly to let us know that they had heard us.
I want to respect his kid, but I also sense that they don’t respect me because my relationship with their father is not one of a bona fide girlfriend.
