On our one year anniversary, we completed our first review and since then, we have conducted one every year without fail.
First, we rate statements like ‘My partner listens when I talk’; ‘I’m satisfied with the quality of sex’; and ‘I feel loved even when we argue’ on a scale of 1-5 in silence and adding notes.
On the other hand, Emily needs to talk things through out loud, which can be overwhelming for me if I don’t have the energy to help process her emotions, and I can come across as dismissive.
This means I often appear calm when I’m actually deeply upset, which makes it hard for Emily to understand how I actually feel.
You have four ‘burners’: family, friends, work, health, and the idea is that you can only realistically have two or three burning bright at any one time or you’ll burn out.
