It’s also useful to know your patterns, says Bela Gandhi, dating coach at the Smart Dating Academy and host of the Smart Dating Academy podcast.
“Spending time with friends really helps you figure out what your interests are and how you connect with other people,” White says, adding that working with a therapist or dating coach is also helpful.
Ettin suggests going to three events a month: one dating event, such as speed dating or a singles night, and two events that allow you to get out of your comfort zone.
There are three main pipelines for meeting people, says Gandhi: online dating, in real life and getting set up by friends or family.
“A lot of people jump into relationships hoping the other person will help them explore who they are,” says Lamont White, a dating coach.
