I just found out my fiancée did the unthinkable at her...

Dear Jana,. A week before our wedding, my fiancée had her hens' party. No big deal, I expected some drinks, a few cheeky games, maybe a stripper for laughs. What I didn't expect was to find out the stripper had ended up completely naked, and at some point he was in the hot tub with my fiancée and her friends. Some of whom, I should add, are also in committed relationships with my mates. I'm incandescent. My wife-to-be insists it was all in good fun, just a wild night out with the girls, and that nothing serious happened. Her friends say this stuff happens all the time at hen parties and they're surprised by my reaction.

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But I can't shake the mental image of the love of my life in a hot tub with a naked man. Surely that's a red flag I shouldn't ignore? I fear I'm making a massive mistake and am even considering calling off the wedding. Patrick. In this week's Saucy Secrets, Jana helps a man who is worried about his fiancée's hens' party. Dear Patrick,. Oh, please. So your fiancée saw the stripper's willy, and at some point, the bloke got comfy in the hot tub? Big whoop. You're spiralling, my friend. But I think I know why….

Image Credit: Mail Online ['At the end of the day, you either trust your fiancée or you don't,' columnist Jana Hocking says (stock image posted by models)]

You've seen what goes on at bucks parties and have assumed we women are just as guilty of getting up to no good. Pffft! The gentleman doth protest too much. If the roles were reversed, would you be having this same crisis over a female stripper showing off her boobs at your bucks night? If the answer is no, then we need to talk about double standards. Because not so long ago, I asked my Instagram followers to spill the tea on what goes down at bucks parties, and the stories that were submitted were truly wild.

Image Credit: Mail Online [Daily Mail columnist Jana Hocking gives advice to a man who is worried about his 'hot' wife messaging with her celeb crush on Instagram (stock image, posed by model)]

We're talking escorts, cheating, hard drugs... If we're talking 'boundaries', you blokes sure have some blurry ones. Look, everyone has different lines in the sand when it comes to 'harmless fun' versus 'oh, hell no'. If this has rattled you, the real question is... have you and your fiancée actually talked about what's off-limits before marriage?. Because that's the real issue here, not one rowdy night with the girls.

Is a woman hopping into a hot tub with a male stripper is a red flag? (Stock image posed by models, neither of whom are strippers). And here's something to really have you clutching those pearls of yours, I once paid a stripper an extra $50 to flash the bride-to-be, and it was the best money I'd ever spent - purely to watch her squirm and hear a bunch of women squawking at the hilarity of it all. So, calm your farm. If she saw a willy (almost certainly a soft one FYI), it was just for a giggle.

At the end of the day, you either trust your fiancée or you don't. If one hens' party is enough to make you rethink your entire marriage, maybe the problem isn't the party - it's how secure you feel in the relationship. And that's something to really ponder before you say 'I do'. 'At the end of the day, you either trust your fiancée or you don't,' columnist Jana Hocking says (stock image posted by models).

My missus is a good sort, always has been. She's always getting looked up and down when we go out, but I've never been the jealous type. But now I'm starting to wonder if I should be. She's always been obsessed with this one TV actor on a show she's watched for years. I used to take the piss, thought it was all a bit of fun. Then the other night she casually mentions he replied to one of her Instagram messages.

And now? They're chatting. Not just a one-off reply, actual back-and-forth convos. She reckons it's nothing, just a bit of banter, but this bloke is famous, loaded and probably used to women throwing themselves at him. Why would he be chatting to her just to be nice? I trust her, but I also know how these things go. Am I being a paranoid d***head, or is this the kind of thing I should be worried about?.

Anonymous. Daily Mail columnist Jana Hocking gives advice to a man who is worried about his 'hot' wife messaging with her celeb crush on Instagram (stock image, posed by model). Dear Anonymous,. Okay, this one is a bit tricky, but let me start by saying no, you are not being a d***head, and I totally get why you're feeling a little uneasy. But the fact she's sharing these messages with you? That's actually a positive sign.

To be fair, who wouldn't want the ego boost? A famous celebrity once sent me a fire emoji, and I am shameless enough to admit it put a pep in my step for a week, so I get her excitement. However… why the hell is she messaging him in the first place? That's where the ick factor creeps in. Sliding into anyone's DMs - celebrity or not - feels a little dicey when you're in a relationship. It's not just harmless banter; it's messaging a bloke she fancies, knowing full well there's a chance he might reply.