Wedding planner and venue owner Alison Rios McCrone helps solve your dilemmas, no matter how big or small, in a weekly agony aunt column. Dear Alison,. I got engaged recently and I’m already loving throwing myself into wedding planning. My fiancé and I have already booked our venue, a wedding singer and organised our reception and I could not be more excited for it all.
![[Chubby woman seen from behind looking for a wedding gown]](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/GettyImages-1441751558.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
There is, however, one part I’m dreading: wedding dress shopping. Specifically, bringing my mum and sister with me because I worry that they’ll fat shame me. As a plus size woman, clothes shopping can be hard at the best of times, but shopping for a dress for what’s meant to be the biggest day of your life adds a whole new dimension of anxiety. I’ve already made peace with the fact that sample size dresses may not fit me, and that there will be certain styles that just won’t flatter my figure.
![[Alison sitting on steps in a large garden, wearing a navy jacket and colourful scarf]](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/image-0be9-e1729774142146.png?w=646)
But the thing keeping me up at night are the comments my mum and sister may make. Throughout my life I’ve heard the same comments over and over; ‘If you lose a bit of weight, it’ll be so much more flattering’; ‘Don’t you think you need to cover up a bit more?’; ‘Ooh, that’s a bit too small, isn’t it?’; and the last thing I want is to hear these comments when trying on dresses. I’m already nervous won’t look as good on me as the models because I’m not a size 6.
