I was scammed out of £60,000 by someone I met on a dating app

When Marisha Wallace first met James* she was instantly impressed. Handsome and smartly dressed, as if he looked like he worked in the City, he wasn’t her usual type – but it didn’t matter, she was looking for something a bit ‘different’. James was also warm and funny. And, says Marisha, he was attentive. ‘Emotionally attentive,’ she adds. ‘He would check in on me and, whatever you thought a man was supposed to do, he would do.’.

At the time, West End star Marisha had just separated from her husband of ten years and was looking forward to a fresh start in London where she was appearing in Dream Girls. New to the city and with few local friends locally, she signed up to a dating app and found James, who told her he was an accounts manager at a financial institution. The pair immediately hit it off and saw each other casually, fitting in fun dates at bars and restaurants in the rare evenings Marisha, 39, could find between shows.

When she couldn’t find time, they would chat regularly on the phone. ‘Hewould call me after every show,’ she tells Metro. ‘His attentiveness never felt over the top. He knew I’d just got out of a relationship and wasn’t after anything too serious or heavy, but it was nice to have him around.’. A few weeks after they started dating in 2018, James casually mentioned that he’d had a good return on an investment that he’d made, which struck a chord with Marisha, who had told him her plans of making some money on her savings to buy her mum a house.

She was instantly intrigued, especially as she had no reason to distrust James at this point, remembers Marisha. ‘You know, someone recommends something, like “Oh I have this amazing suit” or “I have this amazing tax person,” and in our business, a lot comes down to recommendations, because you live in lots of different places,’ she explains. ‘I’ve had recommendations for all kinds of things, and I’ve tried them, and they’ve been great.’.

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She was able to track her money through the website John had signed her up to and Marisha was overjoyed when she logged into her account a few weeks later and saw that she’d made £2,500. ‘I was in Vienna on holiday in August when I logged into my account. I thought, “Oh, my God, it’s working!” Then John called and asked if I got my return. It felt great, so I went and bought a designer purse,’ she recalls.

Two weeks later John called and told Marisha about another event where she could get a higher return if she invested more. Buoyed by her previous win, Marisha put her life savings into the account – another £40,000. However, a few days later, she got a strange feeling in the pit of her stomach. She didn’t know why, but it spurred Marisha to contact John and find out what was happening to her money.

‘I called and I called and he didn’t answer. Until this point, whenever I rang him he would pick up no matter what,’ she says. ‘When he didn’t, I knew something wasn’t right and I started feeling sick.’. In desperation, Marisha called James, who she was still seeing casually, and told him she wanted her money pulled from the scheme. When he told her to trust him and tried to calm her down, Marisha could tell something was very wrong.

‘All of a sudden I knew – it was fake. A scam. The penny dropped and I realised that James was a scammer too,’ she admits. Marisha knew that James was her only link to the money, so she played innocent and invited him over. As they chatted in her flat, she casually asked him to remind her of his second name. The one he gave her was different to the one he’d originally used, so after he left, she contacted the company he said he worked for.

The fact that a man had wormed his way into her life, lying to her face and stealing from her was ‘probably the worst thing that has happened to me in my life,’ says Marisha. ‘It’s the betrayal of it. Before it happens to you, you think people are inherently good, but there are evil people in this world. Professional scammers, for whom this is their job.’. When James’ work didn’t recognise the name Marisha gave them, they asked for a picture of him, which she duly sent. She then received a call from a lawyer at the company who told her James was a receptionist there.