My wife’s doctor appointment during pregnancy revealed her affair years ago – but it’s still my child

A MAN revealed how his pregnant wife's doctor appointment exposed her extra marital affair in an unexpected way. The paternity of the unborn baby wasn't what gave the betrayal away. In his post, the unnamed Reddit user gave some background on his relationship.

He explained he has been with his wife for eight years, and married for five of them. The couple were expecting their first child and had recently attended a seven month check up at the doctor's. Part of the appointment involved carrying out a blood test on the pregnant woman.

"As I was going through the results subconsciously, I noticed that my wife's blood type is B+," the poster wrote. The man recalled his wife telling him she was blood type O- years earlier. While this may seem like an innocent mistake, the circumstances of the lie made him suspicious.

"Six years ago before we got married, I remember that I was on a two week long work trip [when] my wife told me she was with her girlfriends and she would be back by 10:00 PM," he explained. He recalled how her communication that night became "less and less frequent".

When he didn't hear from her after she got home, the Reddit user decided to check his wife's location. However, it was switched off and she never answered any of his calls or texts. Assuming she was already asleep or "passed out drunk" he brushed it off.

The next day, his wife rang to explain the traumatic reason why she had been off the grid all night. She told her husband that her friend had been in a car accident and had "lost a lot of blood". "She had to donate blood because she has the blood type O- which is compatible with her friend," he recalled.

Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating. They start to take their phone everywhere with them. In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.". "You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.".

They start telling you less about their day. When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you. "If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.".

"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron. Their libido changes. Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.

Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating.  You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before.".

They become negative towards you. Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify. "To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere.  Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime.  A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.

So after returning home from their doctor's appointment he confronted his wife over the lie. "She confessed to cheating on me with a guy she met at the bar the night she was with her girlfriends," he said. The poster went to stay with his cousin as he processed the betrayal.

He revealed their friends and family had been contacting him to forgive his wife as the stress she was under is "not good for the baby". Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section. "Let’s not forget she didn’t willingly confess, the original poster caught her out in a lie, how many other lies has she told him?" asked one reader.

"She’s shown she’s willing to lie to you and cheat on you if it suits her needs," pointed out another person. "Pity about your child, about to be raised in two separate households but that's what happens when you cheat - you tend to lose your partner," commented a third Reddit user.