I’m 6 months pregnant & found out my husband is sleeping with my childhood bestie – I saw texts while snoozing his alarm

WHILE expecting her third child, one woman made a shocking discovery about her husband. The young mum couldn't believe the message she read on her partner's phone after six years of marriage. In her post, the Reddit user explained that she had been going through a tough time when she learned of her husband's betrayal. The couple, who had been together since they were in their late teens and early 20s, had been dealing with the poster's dad's cancer diagnosis.

She described how the illness had "gotten progressively worse" and how her husband encouraged her to quit her job. "After finding out I was pregnant again he ensured me it was still OK to quit my job, that honestly it would save us a small fortune on daycare costs," she recalled. She explained that she had been up early one morning with their sick three-year-old when her husband's work alarm went off.

Since her partner "rolled over and went back to sleep" she reached for his phone herself. "As I went to turn off the remainder of his alarms I saw a text from my friend on his lock screen," she said. According to the mum-of-three, the message read: “I’m assuming since there hasn’t been an angry pregnant lady on my doorstep you haven’t told her about us yet?”. The Reddit user described how "time froze in that moment" as she read through the incriminating conversation.

She discovered that the shocking affair had been going on for four months. "My best friend and I have been friends since [we were in] nappies," she explained. "Her family is like my family and vice versa, my mum and her mum grew up together.". She described their relationship as "soulmates in friend form" and said they were as "thick as thieves.”. According to the poster, there had been "no warning signs" and her husband "has been so loving and attentive" as always.

"There has been no late night work nights except for once in a blue moon, there has been no lingering touches between them or even glances," she explained. Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating. They start to take their phone everywhere with them. In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.". "You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.". They start telling you less about their day.

When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you. "If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.". "Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.

Their libido changes. Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron. Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating.  You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before.".

They become negative towards you. Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify. "To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere.  Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime.  A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.

She revealed that she was planning to confront her husband and cut off her best friend entirely. Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section. "Screenshot and save those messages before he can delete them," advised one reader. "Don't confront, act as 'normal' as you, and for the love of God, go see a lawyer first, before you make any moves," suggested another commenter. "Just keep evidence of the cheating and then divorce him. I'm so sorry you're going through that, but you can make it. All the best to you and your kids!" wrote a third person.