Katherine Ryan takes husband to marriage coaching over sex issues with surprise result

Katherine Ryan and her hubby take stock in the second series of her hit show At Home With Katherine Ryan, but it’s not just their marriage that gets a check-up – she also takes him to an intimacy coach to spice up their sex life. The former Masked Singer star, 41, returns to screens as she talks about her intimate life with her husband Bobby Kootstra, which is being stymied by having a teenager and two toddlers at home.

It’s not just the frequency that Kamasutra expert Seema Anand is disappointed with, it’s also the lack of variety. So how often do they have sex? “About five times a month,” says Katherine Ryan. “The national average is three. It’s not that we don’t want to, but we have a lot of policing in the house. Violet is in school, sure, but then the babies are there! It’s like when we were teenagers, because we used to hide from our parents and have to get creative. Now we have to hide from a teenager and get creative.”.

On the U&W show, the pair are asked to try sex tips such as listening to erotic audio together. Katherine is not a fan and remains unashamed about her prosaic sex life. “Absolutely I’m still vanilla in the bedroom,” she says. “I have no interest in games or props or toys or audio erotica. We had no idea how prudish we actually were about sex until we invited the intimacy coach into our lives.”.

For Katherine, it’s the sneaking around like teenagers that makes the sex fun – that and her favourite missionary position. “Maybe the brevity and danger of the way we have to have sex is enough,” she muses. “I think a lot of the British viewing public are navigating the same issues. They probably want to have sex but maybe they’ve just eaten or they can’t be bothered or they’re too tired and they’re just not as willing to talk about it as much as we are!”.

While Katherine doesn’t think her relationship with Bobby is in trouble, she has identified a “poisonous toxin”. “People will argue about finances or sleep,” says Katherine, “But I think under-appreciation is a real bad one, and that leads to a lack of respect and that’s the beginning of the end. “Bobby and I have different strengths and different skills and we have different roles in our house but it’s really important to make sure your spouse feels appreciated.”.

In her new TV series, fans will see Katherine dressed down at home, and dressed up for work. “I have one of two looks,” explains Katherine. “I either look super sparkly and glam or I look like an elderly rapper in some type of luxury tracksuit with no make-up on. I actually love having no make-up on. I dress for myself and for women, and I take risks in stand-up, just like I take risks in fashion. I love doing that. It’s part of self-expression.”.

Katherine may not be as focused on her looks as she once was, but she does want more cosmetic surgery one day, and recently bought her 64-year-old mother Julie a facelift as a surprise. “It could be received as a slam,” acknowledges Katherine when asked about the risks of gifting cosmetic surgery. “But again, our family is so transparent, we know a lot about each other and what each other wants. It’s lonely to look in the mirror and no longer recognise yourself. And I just knew my mom would like a facelift.”.

After seeing the results, Katherine is keen to have one herself when the time is right. However, Bobby isn’t fully on board. “Rightly, Bobby views any surgery as an unnecessary, very small, risk to your life,” says Katherine. “Bobby has always loved me for who I am. We were together pre-Botox, pre-fame, pre-breast implants. He doesn’t love surgery, but if it’s something I really wanted, if it made me happy, he’d support me. Through gritted teeth.”.

But before she sees the plastic surgeon, Katherine is visiting the fertility clinic to explore having a fourth child. Both 41, Katherine and Bobby are aware that time isn’t on their side. “It’s not that surprising that over-40 women have fewer follicles than we once did,” says Katherine. “But we talk a lot about male fertility as well, which is on a steep decline. But I would still like a fourth baby.

We are so blessed to have the kids that we do have. Having children is not for everyone, but I personally really like making people. I think it’s a superpower, if you can do it.”. Like this story? For more of the latest showbiz news and gossip, follow Mirror Celebs onTikTok,Snapchat,Instagram,Twitter,Facebook,YouTubeandThreads. Get the biggest TV headlines, recaps and insider knowledge straight to your inbox.