My date listed his top 5 qualities in a woman – number 3 left me gobsmacked
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‘Don’t cook for him!’. Those were the unusual words of advice my best friend gave me ahead of my first date with Mr January. She’d only just entered her first serious relationship, but now she wanted to save me from her domestic fate. ‘All I seem to be doing is cooking for this man,’ she lightheartedly warned. ‘Don’t fall into the same housewife category!’.
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In hindsight it was good advice, though not for the reasons you’d expect. About a month earlier as we barrelled towards the end of 2020, another friend of mine had said her new year’s resolution was to date a man every month. The aim wasn’t to date 12 new men in a year, more just to force herself to get back out there on the dating scene and commit to at least one date each month. That could be with different men or, ideally, the same man in the hopes it’d become something serious.
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Being that I was also headed towards 30 and had never had a boyfriend myself I felt like it was a great idea and agreed to join her on this quest for that elusive ‘Mr Right’. However, I fell at the first hurdle with Mr January (aka Mike*). Love reading juicy stories like this? Need some tips for how to spice things up in the bedroom?.
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Sign up to The Hook-Up and we'll slide into your inbox every week with all the latest sex and dating stories from Metro. We can't wait for you to join us!. I matched with him in late December 2020 on the dating app Hinge because, from the looks of his profile, we could be well suited.
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I was very much looking for someone who was adventurous and outgoing like me, who – while not necessarily into competing triathlons – was sporty and also ambitious. And his profile showed him completing a half marathon, in fancy dress no less, and that he worked in software sales.
