I’m a relationship expert, here’s the five mistakes you must avoid to find love in 2025
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SIGN-ups for dating apps soar in January with lovelorn Scots hoping to find the one. A new year brings a chance to reinvent yourself. And while for many the gym is the answer, others are on the hunt for a relationship. With dating season in full swing - and Valentine’s Day looming - one expert says getting it right on the first date is key.
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James Preece, a dating and relationship guru at HeraHaven, said: “A first date can be both exciting and nerve-wracking and while there are many factors that contribute towards a successful match, avoiding some of the most common pitfalls can help too.”.
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James gives his top tips to help you date smarter in 2025. Avoid Low Effort Venues. January is known as a month for hibernating, so it’s the perfect time to get out and a great excuse to get dressed up. Putting effort into a venue choice doesn't require you to spend a fortune - but you want to demonstrate your interest, so coffee shops or a walk are big no-gos.
James said: “Engaging activities that foster interaction and create memorable experiences are key. “Think mini golf, a museum visit, a picnic in the park, a trip to a Farmer’s Market or bowling.”. Don’t Forget to Flirt. Building chemistry is key to the success of securing a second date.
And a cheeky flirt to let your date know you’re interested is essential. Nerve-wracking as flirting may be, the dating landscape these days can be cut-throat so it’s essential to create a spark straight away. James says: “Try to maintain eye contact, offer genuine compliments and engage in light-hearted banter - all of this will signal your attraction.
