SAUCY SECRETS: My situationship won't commit but whinges when I see other men. Then he did something VERY weird when I was on a date...
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Dear Jana,. My best friend recently confided in me that she's been having the best sex of her life with her new boyfriend, and now I'm weirdly jealous. Not because I fancy her boyfriend, but of how confident and comfortable she now is in her sexuality. I feel like my partner and I are just fumbling through it in comparison. How do I stop comparing myself and actually enjoy the sex I'm having?.
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Anonymous. Dear Anonymous,. Okay, pull up a chair and let me tell you something about sex and confidence: everyone looks like they know what they're doing... until the lights come on. Trust me, even your bestie's 'mind-blowing' escapades probably involve an awkward elbow to the face or the occasional 'oops, wrong spot!' moment. It's just part of the magic!.
You think porn is filmed in one take? Nope. There's plenty of, 'Alright, let's do that again'. And why do you think there are sex coordinators on Hollywood movie sets - because it's a full-time job making sex look, well, sexy sometimes. Plus, I think sex is kind of like Instagram: you only brag about your best moments. Ask her what it's like when her bloke is suffering from the 'man flu' or after a few too many beers. No man can perform like a stallion all the time.
Mail+ columnist Jana Hocking gives her trademark sassy advice to readers needing help with their love lives - or lack thereof. So I'm going to be blunt: your head is in the wrong place (or should I say the wrong bedroom). Instead of worrying about what's happening in your friend's boudoir, focus on making yours the sexiest, happiest place it can be. Are you spritzing yourself with perfume? Are you lighting candles? Did you both remember to brush your teeth. Even the smallest things can help create the 'mood' for a raunchy good time.
