Should you really share your bedroom fantasies with you partner? TRACEY COX shares tales of how it's gone horribly wrong - and reveals how to get it right
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New research says sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner is a good idea. A study of 287 people found of the 69 per cent who do share fantasies, 80 per cent had a positive experience. Tempted to do the same? Not so fast. There are reasons why only a small percentage of us tell our partners our darkest, dirtiest imaginings.
![[Sex and relationships expert Tracey Cox (pictured) warns that confessing your fantasies to your partner can be risky]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/14/20/94088047-14284283-image-a-26_1736885079706.jpg)
Our fantasies tend to either involve other people or our current partners doing something they may not be happy doing. The second reason is, contrary to popular belief, very few of us have any desire to act them out. One of the greatest myths about fantasies is that they're suppressed wishes. They're not. Most are conjured up purely for sexual entertainment.
![[According to Tracey, very few people actually want to act out their fantasies]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/14/20/94088079-14284283-image-a-27_1736885094323.jpg)
Not everyone realises that, which is why confessing is risky – and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. A study of 287 people found of the 69 per cent who do share fantasies, 80 per cent had a positive experience. You'll find tips on how to share safely for those who dare to forge ahead but read these cautionary tales first.
![[Revealing your fantasies is risky because they often involve other people or our current partners doing something they may not be happy doing]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/14/20/94088069-14284283-image-a-28_1736885104668.jpg)
A lot can go wrong – and frequently does. 'HE HIRED A SEX WORKER TO HAVE SEX WITH US – WITHOUT ASKING ME FIRST.'. Christine, 28, got a birthday surprise she hadn't bargained for after sharing a lesbian fantasy with her then boyfriend. 'My boyfriend wasn't the guy who is always hassling his girlfriend for a threesome.
![[Tracey does, however, offer advice on how to share your fantasies in a safe way]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/14/20/94088077-14284283-image-a-29_1736885125667.jpg)
'He was a teacher and if anything, a bit dull. We had OK sex on a regular basis but nothing particularly creative or exciting. 'One night, we were a bit drunk and about to have sex and I decided to tell him I had often fantasised about having a threesome with another woman.
