Stalking widows online saved my marriage: It may sound ghoulish, but their unfathomable grief makes me love my husband more. Now experts reveal WHY some of us have this strange obsession
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Hearing the front door click open, my heart does a little flip as I welcome my husband home from work with a grateful hug and a passionate kiss. I must admit, after 10 years of marriage, four kids and a Sheepadoodle, I thought the honeymoon period of our relationship was long gone.
![[After 10 years of marriage, four kids and a Sheepadoodle, Jonica Bray (pictured) thought the honeymoon period of her relationship was long gone - until she discovered widow influencers]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/07/05/93813975-14257773-image-a-22_1736227862036.jpg)
But then recently I discovered something new - or should I say someone new - and unexpectedly it has given me back my marriage mojo. No, it's not an affair, or a subscription to some ripped reality star on OnlyFans. And we haven't done couples therapy or started dabbling in tantric sex.
The person responsible for my new lease on life is actually a complete stranger: an American mother of two, who lost her own husband in a tragic accident. Just like other popular influencers on Instagram who inspire you to declutter your house, reorganise your pantry or dress your children in beige, young widows have carved out a large niche on social media, with some boasting hundreds of thousands of followers.
As somatic therapist and relationship expert Georgia Grace explains, observing widows online can have a similar cathartic effect to watching an emotional movie or reading a book. 'But unlike a movie that has an end, you have an ongoing touch point to keep following the story,' she says.
Julie, who goes by the name 'Spilled Milk Mamma' on Instagram, lost her husband Charles in a car accident just weeks after she gave birth to their second child. 'It allows you to put things into perspective and feel more compassion and empathy in your own life,' Georgia adds.
