I was forced to cheat on my wife after having children wrecked our sex life - and here's why my deceit is justified...
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The birth of your children is supposed to be the pinnacle of married life. So, after almost 20 years of marriage and with two fantastic daughters, am I thanking my lucky stars that my wife and I made the leap from partners to parents?. In short, no. A shocking thing to say? Yes, absolutely. But there's more: the truth is, deep down, I don't think any man ever wants to swap those heady days of coupledom for becoming a family unit.
![[Deep down, I don't think any man ever wants to swap those heady days of coupledom for becoming a family unit (stock image)]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2022/09/22/23/62712285-0-deep_down_I_don_t_think_any_man_ever_wants_to_swap_those_heady_d-m-61_1663887443824.jpg)
Who can deny that children introduce stress and strife into a relationship? And parenthood often turns a formerly loving couple into, at best, exhausted comrades in arms — at worst, adversaries. In particular, it spells disaster for the one area of a marriage that many men believe to be the most important: your sex life.
![[I was expected to carry out the hard but necessary jobs around the house — washing the car, emptying the dishwasher and, of course, helping out with the childcare (stock image)]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2022/09/22/23/62712413-0-image-a-62_1663887556706.jpg)
So, I wasn't surprised to learn that TV presenter Kate Humble thinks the secret to the success of her 30-year marriage is not having children. She went on to explain that not becoming parents has given her and husband Ludo 'a liberation that parents don't have'.
![[I had hoped things would improve as the children grew older and became a bit more independent. But instead it got worse, with her preferring to prioritise school PTA meetings and after-school clubs]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2022/09/23/00/62712409-0-image-a-63_1663887622943.jpg)
I'm sure I can't be the only husband and father silently shaking my head at the all-too-familiar flipside. Namely, a relationship so constrained by children that spouses have become little more than business partners (often warring ones at that). And I'm also convinced I can't be the only man who has been driven to stray — or at least felt sorely tempted — as a result.
![[I enjoyed myself and started going out with my colleagues more often — a couple of times a month to clubs, where I would talk and dance with women]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2022/09/23/00/62712525-11241219-image-m-65_1663887802811.jpg)
