I was in a happy relationship for 20 years before we became a throuple

A husband and wife who welcomed a third person into their relationship after 20 years have revealed their family members thought she was a 'gold-digger.'. Rachael Meir, 43, had been married to husband Aaron, also 43, for almost two decades when Kasey, 33, walked into their lives five years ago. Despite the haters and raised eyebrows, the throuple held a triad commitment ceremony together in November 2023.

And now the trio, based in Colorado Springs, Colorado, consider themselves in a three-way marriage, doing everything regular couples do - from traveling together to sharing a bed. Rachael and Aaron met Kasey on the dating app Bumble in 2019. After chatting to a few people, customer training manager Kasey, from Kansas City, Missouri, was the first woman they decided to meet. However, the pair admit it didn't initially go down too well with friends and family.

'At first, there was a lot of shock and even fear,' Rachael, a psychologist from St. Petersburg, Florida, explained. Rachael (left) and Aaron (middle) were married for 20 years before they met their third partner, Kasey (right). They met Kasey on the dating app Bumble in 2019 and held a triad commitment ceremony in November 2023. 'We were dropping a big change on them, and people naturally filled in the gaps with their own assumptions.

'Some common concerns we heard were: Rachael is actually a lesbian and will leave Aaron for Kasey, Kasey is a gold-digger or home-wrecker trying to take Aaron and Rachael's money or break up their marriage, or Aaron is running off with the younger woman.'. Rachael admitted they also get comments from people in public and online. She said: 'Some people assume Aaron must be wealthy or exceptionally well-endowed.

'Others see our relationship as morally or religiously wrong. 'Some mistakenly refer to Kasey and me as "sister wives.". 'And many people predict it won't last.'. But over time, Rachael says their close circle saw their love deepen and began to come to terms with the relationship. She said: 'Most of them have become incredibly supportive. 'Education and open conversations helped break down misconceptions and now they encourage and celebrate our relationship. Our bond is just as meaningful and committed.'.

The pair chose to open their relationship to Kasey because of Rachael's bisexuality which she expressed to Aaron years prior. When they first told their families about expanding their marriage, they were 'shocked' and thought Kasey might be a 'gold-digger'. The throuple also get negative comments from people in public and online. Rachael says she and Aaron, a compliance and operations manager, initially explored non-monogamy and opened up their marriage about 15 years ago through the swinging lifestyle.

'Aaron and I were married and chose to open our relationship mostly because of my bisexuality,' Rachael shared. 'Over time, we transitioned from swinging to polyamory, and after intentionally searching for a triad dynamic, we found that connection with Kasey.'. Rachael also said being in a throuple is not too different from a monogamous relationship. 'There are just three of us instead of two,' she argued.

'We share a bed and follow a routine that includes going to the gym, working, walking the dog, cooking, doing dishes, watching shows, traveling, going out to eat, attending concerts, you name it. 'One of the biggest advantages is that there's always someone to engage with. 'If one partner isn't in the mood for something, it creates an opportunity for the other two to connect without pressure. Despite what people may believe, Rachael said being in a throuple isn't that different from being in a monogamous relationship.

The three share a bed and have created a life together equipped with routines and plenty of time spent together. 'We say it's always a party, never a crowd. We prioritize intentional quality time. We rotate our schedule, plus we have a triad date weekly.'. For the throuple, outside judgments don't make a difference. 'Right now, we're all on the same page and continue to build our life together as a committed triad,' Rachael added.