Paloma Faith has never been one to sugarcoat reality, particularly when it comes to motherhood. In a world where social media paints an impossibly perfect parenting picture, the singer has been refreshingly honest about the struggles new mums can face. Talking about how pre and post-natal hormones took over her life, she says: "You don't realise as a woman how in charge they are." Indeed, after having two daughters, Paloma, 43, felt like she lost herself entirely in a fog of exhaustion and emotion.
Amid the sleepless nights and her fluctuating hormone levels, she feared the person she was before motherhood had disappeared. Instead, she was gripped by feelings of a total loss of control that took over her mind and body without warning. Now, she is calling for doctors to pay more attention to post-natal hormone levels, insisting: "If science was run by women, there would be so much more done for it.".
She believes a simple daily hormone test could save relationships and prevent countless divorces. Paloma split from her long term partner Leyman Lahcine in 2022 after nine years together. And she has frequently talked about the immense strain parenthood put on them. "When I met the father of my kids, I genuinely did think that that would be my forever person," she admits. "I never thought at any point that we would break up.
These days they are forging ahead as co-parents, splitting their time with the children. "The thought of not having my kids with me 50 percent of the time sounds like hell to me. I would just die inside. I can't not have them," she said. So is love on the cards for Paloma in the future? While she's previously ruled out marriage, she admits she's had a change of heart, having been with her current partner for more than a year.
"I wasn't married to my kids' dad and I've always been someone that's very anti-marriage, because the history of it is that it's about ownership of women and I'm the child of a feminist," she says. "Weirdly, I don't know what's changed in me, but this guy gives me a bit like 'Oh well.'". She continued: "I'll keep an open mind, I can feel myself softening. If I ever did, I would have a prenup. As soon as you have kids, you automatically love your children more than each other, and that is a given. It really is.".
