Etiquette experts reveal if it is appropriate to break up with someone via text after the first date
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Decoding dating etiquette is notoriously difficult - especially figuring out what the appropriate move is after a first date that's not quite the right connection. While some singles appreciate a text after a first date saying it wasn't a love match, others find it wildly offensive and would rather both parties ghost.
![[Etiquette expert Thomas P. Farley, also known as Mister Manners, told DailyMail.com that unless an individual 'follows up expressing interest in an another get-together,' the second person should simply 'not initiate further contact']](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/10/21/93975659-14259703-image-a-10_1736543863818.jpg)
To find out if it's more polite to silently part ways or send a first date break up text, FEMAIL reached out to etiquette experts and a matchmaker who weighed in. Etiquette expert Lisa Mirza Grotts told DailyMail.com, 'When Sex and the City's Carrie Bradshaw's boyfriend Jack Berger broke up with her on a post-it note after being in a "relationship," that was inexcusable.'.
![['All in all, I think it is better to let a budding romance simply fizzle out - as long as both parties appear to be taking that route,' Thomas summed it up (stock image)]](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/10/21/93975651-14259703-image-a-6_1736543181785.jpg)
'But after one date, it's more like… it was nice to meet you. No break-up necessary, simply no interest,' Lisa, who goes by the Golden Rules Gal on Instagram, revealed. 'If it feels like neither party is interested and no discussion of a second date, it's appropriate to simply part ways without a text,' Lisa explained. 'Sometimes silence communicates mutual disinterest better than words.'.
![[Dani Bergman, who starred on Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking, tells her clients, 'If you had a great first date and wanted to see that person again, would you prefer them ghost you or send you a respectful message?']](https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/01/10/21/93975667-14259703-image-a-5_1736543174421.jpg)
Lisa, who's based in San Francisco, said that when it comes to ending things, 'timing matters.'. 'No matter how much interaction you've had, if there isn't a connection and no plans are discussed, things will naturally fizzle,' Lisa said. 'But if there are tentative plans or future dates, it's courteous to send a text.'.
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