I adopted an embryo and then became a mum at 50 – I don’t believe being an older parent is selfish
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KIA is proud of her midlife motherhood journey; with a friend while pregnant; smiling with son Samuel; in hospital with her newborn. Kia Glover, 51, is a consultant to independent musicians and a publisher. she lives in Atlanta, USA, with son Samuel, 13 months.
![[Kia in hospital with her newborn son, Samuel]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/Kia_and_her_son_1jpg-JS950766089.jpg?strip=all&w=720)
“My hands were shaking with excitement as I put the phone down. After a decade of heartbreak, I’d just heard I was finally pregnant. I was going to be a mum at 50. It had been a childhood dream to one day become a mother, and in my 20s and 30s I was sure I’d meet the perfect guy to start a family with.
![[Kia with a friend during her pregnancy journy]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/7ba3f491-ed1d-4117-b1f5-20a78a583b73.jpg?strip=all&w=644)
I had a few serious relationships, but in 2012, 39 and single, that confidence was wavering. Aged 40, I tried freezing my eggs. It was then that I discovered I had a diminished ovarian reserve, which was devastating. Meanwhile, the men I met either didn’t want kids, had already had a vasectomy or turned out not to be single.
![[A smiling Kia with Samuel]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/aacb4081-1c90-475b-a36c-23e5d7971cc2.jpg?strip=all&w=747)
At 45, I made the huge decision to pursue adoption as a single parent, and was thrilled to be selected by a pregnant 16 year old to be the mother of her child. However, after she gave birth, she decided to keep the baby, which was heartbreaking. At first, I waited, hoping another woman would pick me, but then Covid hit.
![[Kia Glover, 51, is proud of her mid-life motherhood journey]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/2023-08-04_19_54_21858-0400jpg-JS950765972.jpg?strip=all&w=720)
In November 2022, as I was starting to consider IVF, I read about embryo donation, which is when a woman or couple donate their leftover embryos from their own IVF treatment. In January 2023, I chose two different embryos, in case one didn’t stick. They were both boys. After years of disappointment, I was so hopeful.
