I’m having the best sex at 63 after thinking menopause killed my libido – I’ve had toyboys & swinging boosting orgasms

ON the outside, best-selling author Suzanne Noble may seem like the ultimate picture of respectability - she wears smart outfits, runs a successful business and lives in an upmarket enclave in London. But rather than heading to a posh Waitrose store to do her weekly shopping on Saturday and Sunday, her weekends are more daring than that. Two decades ago, when Suzanne was in her 40s, she wrote an anonymous book that caused a stir with its scandalous tales of her sexual exploration.

And now, aged 63, she is enjoying sex that is just as pleasurable as it was in her youth – if not even better. Whether it’s a mind-blowing rendezvous with her lover or new experiences with multiple partners, Suzanne's 60s have ''heralded a sexual smorgasbord of delights''. One recent occasion saw Suzanne being offered a sensual massage by a professional masseur - which then turned into a mind-blowing sexual encounter.

However, just ten years ago she was floundering, with very little intimacy at all. The menopause had killed her libido and the vigour in the bedroom, with Suzanne bravely admitting she believed she'd never feel like having sex again. ''I’m living proof that even the most sexually vivacious of women can be laid low by midlife hormonal changes,'' she shared with Mail Online. ''And I can’t emphasise enough what a knock it was to my confidence to find myself so sexually depleted.

''I barely recognised myself as my whole identity had been built upon an image of myself as a confident, sensual being.''. Sharing her story, the author admitted that although it took her years to reignite her ''confidence and desire'', she eventually got there. ''But I did it, and now I’m on a mission to show women – and men – just how invigorating and fulfilling intimacy can be at any age.''. Suzanne's interest in sex was ignited in her early 40s, after a monogamous ten-year marriage to her children’s father ended in divorce.

While the couple were still together, Suzanne recalls, their sex life was rather ''vanilla'' and included the ''missionary position''. For a while, they shared their most intimate moments just once a week - but during the final four years they didn’t have any sex at all. After ending the relationship, Suzanne enjoyed six months of dates with men she had encountered online, before meeting a man named Daniel who became her next partner.

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''He was incredibly sexual, and he awoke a response in me. During the two and a half years we were together, he opened up a world of sexual pleasure and experimentation that I hadn’t known existed . . . including inviting others to join us in bed, something that had only featured in my most secret fantasies.''. Their time together changed her attitude to sex and set the tone for the next decade of Suzanne's life.

With a sexual appetite that was raging, Suzanne decided she didn’t want another serious relationship - and instead, wanted to explore every sexual fantasy she'd ever had. ''Written under the pseudonym Suzanne Portnoy to protect my then-teenage sons, the book was a candid exploration of my hedonistic adventures, including taking part in the swinging scene and other alternative sexual lifestyles. ''I had threesomes, foursomes and more.''.

Suzanne has also gone on naturist holidays and taken tantric lessons. However, her most memorable encounter was a threesome with a long-time swinging partner and his mate, during which they all orgasmed simultaneously. I always tell single women, if you’re going to explore your sexuality, your 40s are the best time to do it. The book sparked a mixed response - but ultimately, it struck a chord, sparking long overdue conversations about female sexuality.

Suzanne's inbox was soon full of emails from committed couples who credited her book with revitalising their sex lives. The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker went on to become a bestseller, printed in multiple languages, and was republished in 2013 following the huge success of Fifty Shades Of Grey. ''I’ve certainly never regretted my decision to test the boundaries of my sexual desires,'' the mum-of-two said.