My partner wants an open relationship, but is also jealous of my friendships with women
My partner wants an open relationship, but is also jealous of my friendships with women
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You both appear insecure and are cultivating jealousy in each other. You must focus on building trust for the sake of your child. Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a problem sent in by a reader. My partner and I have been in a relationship for many years, have a child together, and have had our ups and downs along the way.
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Throughout our relationship I’ve been absolutely faithful and haven’t ever had the inclination to cheat. She had an affair a few years ago, which after a lot of pain and hurt on both sides became an open relationship situation, until it fizzled out.
Now, we’ve been monogamous for a long time, but due to her high sex drive she has been discussing the open relationship thing again, but has not yet acted on anything. I am not really interested in exploring this. Obviously she’s a grown adult, so I would not be in a position to stop her from doing what she feels she needs to do.
I keep my friend circles small, and only have a couple of close friends that I would be inclined to meet up with occasionally. Most of these are colleagues who happen to be female, and are very respectful of me and my family and are not the type to cross boundaries. My partner gets very jealous when I spend any time with them, and has always had trust issues with a fear that I may cheat on her, or that I am attracted to them more than her, which, as I reassure her regularly, is not true.
