Experts reveal German ‘doppelbett’ method will save your marriage & your sleep & no, it’s not moving into separate rooms

WHEN you commit to a relationship, you’re in it for the long haul. But life’s hurdles can sometimes create distance, making it harder to stay connected. Now, experts believe they’ve found a simple solution that could not only strengthen your relationship but also improve your sleep. Introducing the German ‘doppelbett’ method - a sleep setup designed to reignite intimacy while ensuring both partners get the rest they need.

According to research by MattressOnline, four out of five couples admit that their partner disrupts their sleep. As more people seek ways to avoid full-on sleep divorce and improve their rest in 2025, this two-mattress method is gaining attention. The Sleep Geek, James Wilson, explains how this widely used European sleeping style can enhance both sleep quality and relationship harmony. He also shares expert advice on how to introduce the idea to your partner - without any awkwardness.

“Forget fighting over the covers or feeling every toss and turn; German couples have mastered the art of sleeping together without disturbing each other,” he explains. “Instead of one double mattress, they opt for two single ones within the same bed frame, paired with separate duvets for ultimate comfort and uninterrupted rest. “Beyond solving the issue of stolen blankets, this setup allows each partner to choose a mattress tailored to their individual comfort preferences - supporting their body weight and sleeping style.

“One partner can choose a softer mattress, while the other opts for a firmer one—no compromise needed. "A bed that fails to support your spine’s natural alignment can lead to discomfort, soreness, and even chronic pain; so this approach can significantly improve overall health. “Another key benefit? Minimal movement disturbances. With separate mattresses and bottom sheets, one person’s tossing and turning won’t disrupt the other’s sleep.

“Well-rested couples tend to be happier, more patient, and communicate better. "This setup is especially beneficial for partners with different sleep schedules. Involving your partner in the process will help them see this isn’t about creating distance. "Whether one wakes up at dawn for work or the other is a night owl, this method dramatically reduces disturbances and helps prevent unnecessary arguments caused by sleep deprivation.

“While investing in a new mattress isn’t a small decision, this approach can help couples avoid resorting to a complete sleep divorce. "You’re still sharing a bed—just with a little more personal space. “You can still cuddle when you want and have those before-bed chats, but with enhanced comfort and choice, this sleeping style promotes the best possible rest.”. So, how do you introduce this idea to your partner without it feeling like a step back in intimacy?.

A recent survey found that nearly two in five (37%) couples sleep in separate beds while on holiday - and report better sleep because of it. Why not bring that same comfort home?. James Wilson shares his top tips for approaching the conversation:. “Many worry this discussion could make them feel ‘less close,’ but research shows that sleeping apart can actually lead to healthier relationships. So, how do you bring it up?.

Thomas Høegh Reisenhus, TEMPUR® sleep specialist & sleep counsellor, reveals the key components of a good bedtime routine and environment... A sure-fire way to facilitate a better night’s sleep is to practice good sleep hygiene. Establish a sleep routine that works for you and stick to it. This will help your body establish a consistent, natural sleep-wake cycle which can do wonders for your overall sleep quality.

As such, try to avoid making up for lost sleep with a lie-in. Instead of sleeping in, spend your morning reading a book in bed or having a leisurely coffee in the kitchen. Ensure that your bedroom, bedding, and sleepwear are fit for purpose too. The ideal sleep environment is dark, quiet, and cool – much like a cave. If you find unwelcome sources of light are keeping you up, consider investing in an eye mask or black-out curtains.

Adding soft furnishings can be a great way to reduce noise, with the surfaces having an absorptive quality, but if this doesn’t work, consider embracing a soothing soundtrack to block it out. In terms of temperature, try to keep your bedroom at 18°C. You can further reduce the risk of waking up due to overheating by ensuring that all your bedding and sleepwear is made with natural, breathable materials such as cotton and linen.

Bear in mind that everyone is different; what might work for most, may not work for you!. Whilst knowing how much sleep you should get, how to overcome common barriers, and practicing good sleep hygiene can facilitate a great night’s sleep, if you continue to struggle with sleep or fatigue persistently, do not hesitate to visit a doctor or health professional for support. “First, keep the conversation open-ended and assure them you’re happy to hear their thoughts.