I reward my husband with sex for doing my list of DIY jobs – my pals are stunned & say it’s ‘unromantic’ & ‘abusive’
I reward my husband with sex for doing my list of DIY jobs – my pals are stunned & say it’s ‘unromantic’ & ‘abusive’
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Elle*, 38, a PA from Birmingham explains how she ‘rewards’ her husband for doing household chores and DIY with sex, and why she thinks more women should try it…. Slipping into some sexy lingerie and spraying on perfume, I know my husband’s waiting for me in bed, ready for an evening of fun between the sheets.
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I’m more than happy to satisfy his fantasies because he’s worked hard for this ‘reward’. To ‘earn’ his night of passion, he’s been busy all day hanging new coat-hooks in our hall cupboard, weeding the garden and fixing a broken door-handle.
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We have an arrangement in our marriage - if he wants sex, he needs to work for it, being useful around the house. We jokingly refer to it as ‘shags for sweeping’ but I’m totally serious when I say that if Mike* doesn’t pull his weight around the house, he doesn’t get any.
I realise it’s a pretty controversial way to decide when to sleep with the man I love, but it works for us. We have a healthy and fulfilling sex life and my home is pristine and well-maintained. What’s not to like?. We jokingly refer to it as ‘shags for sweeping’.
It wasn’t always like this, but it’s a way of life I was driven to when I found myself, like so many women, carrying far too much of the load of running a family home on my own. Mike, a joiner, and I met online in 2015 and married in 2017, moving into our first home shortly before our wedding.
I got pregnant quickly and our daughter was born in the summer of 2018. We decided I would become a full time mum until she went to school - Mike earned just about enough to support us and with childcare so expensive, it made sense for me to give up work for a few years.
