If you’re truly seeking a good marriage, one built on trust, compassion and shared values, you may find that the hardest work isn’t in trying to confirm or deny suspicions, but in letting go of assumptions altogether.
Rekindling a marriage takes time, these conversations will need to be revisited, but in committing to feeling really connected you may find yourself discovering a trust that can withstand distance and change.
You’re considering a barrier in the form of a condom because you suspect she may have been unfaithful, but it may be worth reflecting on whether this impulse to shield yourself comes from a deeper place, one that’s not entirely about her actions.
So, rather than placing a barrier between you, think about how you might approach this reunion with openness and a willingness to uncover what’s real between you now, however uncomfortable that might feel.
When you engage in the kind of dialogue that brings you closer, that lets each of you feel understood and safe, you may find that this question of “protection” shifts.
