I was expecting a second date – then he opened his mouth
I was expecting a second date – then he opened his mouth
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Will they mind that I come with baggage?. Will they mistakenly think I’m trying to find a ‘new dad’ for my child? Will they accept that I may not be able to go out on school nights?. All these questions ran through my mind when I decided to dip my toe once more into the dating pool of (what I hoped would be) eligible bachelors earlier this year.
![[Nilufer Atik - My date apologised for his lateness, then his tooth fell out]](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/SEI_234835316-4ee9-e1735911000849.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
It’s fair to say that dating in your 40s isn’t exactly stress free. By your fourth decade you’ve usually been around the block a few times and have enough baggage to fill an entire carousel at Heathrow. Add a child into the mix and, as a single parent, finding a new partner becomes even more of a minefield.
![[Nilufer Atik - My date apologised for his lateness, then his tooth fell out]](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/SEI_234835594-f4f5-e1735911043159.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
So I decided first to put together a list of criteria. The man in question had to be – at least – in his late forties, preferably with a child or children of his own (I reasoned that, this way, he would understand if I had to cancel dates at the last minute due to childcare issues or my son accidentally getting Lego stuck up his nose).
![[Nilufer Atik - My date apologised for his lateness, then his tooth fell out]](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/SEI_234835505-fc34-e1735911071701.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=645)
He also had to be solvent, funny, intelligent, and looking for a long-term relationship. Love reading juicy stories like this? Need some tips for how to spice things up in the bedroom?. Sign up to The Hook-Up and we'll slide into your inbox every week with all the latest sex and dating stories from Metro. We can't wait for you to join us!.
