I'm a psychologist - this is the sinister truth of what a narcissist really means when they say 'I love you'
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An expert psychologist has revealed what narcissists really mean when they say the words 'I love you'. Writing in Psychology Today, Dr Elinor Greenberg warned that both men and women with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) do not mean the same thing as most people when they say the three special words everyone wants to hear.
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According to Dr Greenberg, what the narcissist actually means is: 'I love my fantasies about you'. Dr Greenberg, who specialises in teaching the diagnosis and treatment of narcissistic adaptations, writes: 'The unfortunate truth is that narcissists do not really fall in love with people.
'They fall in love with their projections of whomever they currently idealise as the perfect mate.'. Although narcissists do a fine job of coming across as the besotted lover when a relationship is fresh, it cannot last as this is based on a fantasy, according to the specialist.
In reality, the love you receive from someone who meets the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) will be fleeting as their affection is dependent on how well you are matching their carefully constructed expectations. 'Real people have flaws,' Dr Greenberg pens. 'Once narcissists stop trying to impress you long enough to get to know you, they eventually become disappointed because you are a real person.'.
