My best friend ghosted me out of the blue like Jesy Nelson did, it’s harder than a breakup & still haunts me years later
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I'D been miserable without my best friend while she was on a three-week holiday in Korea, so the day she got back to work I popped in to say hi. But what happened next still haunts me five years later. As I waited for my coffee in the cafe she worked in, I spotted her behind the counter, hiding in the fridge door.
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It took me a minute to realise that she was waiting for me to leave. While half of me still expected her to come over, the other half of me knew something was wrong. Hoping for the best, I sent a message asking if she was hiding from me. Her curt reply went something like this "Leanne, I would like to see or talk to you when I’m ready.".
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I went home feeling sick to my stomach, I wondered what I could have possibly done to get such a cold response. I wished her well and said to reach out when she’s ready. I waited patiently for a message, but it never came. Five years later, I still think about it often and what happened to our three-year friendship.
![[Jade Thirwall and Jesy Nelson in matching Toy Story pajamas.]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/jade-thirwall-jesy-nelson-instagram-368265137.jpg?strip=all&w=697)
Having been in the dating pool myself, I knew all about ghosting - a term for when someone cuts you out of their life with no explanation, but I never thought it would happen with a friend. Barbara Santini, a relationship expert for Peaches & Screams says: "People ghost primarily due to discomfort with conflict. They avoid difficult conversations, fearing vulnerability or lacking the communication skills to express their needs.
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