The five reasons you’re still single and how to face up to the reality it’s YOU not them
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FINDING the right partner has never been easy but now it feels trickier than ever, as the smallest mistake can see someone dubbed a narcissist. On TikTok alone, the term 'narcissistic' has over 90 million videos - with people claiming a partner walking in front or being 'easily stressed out' are both huge red flags of a clinical diagnosis.
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But the definition of narcissism is much more complicated than that - people with the disorder have high self-importance, lack empathy and pay little regard for others' needs. Despite loving to be centre of attention, they are often highly insecure. While many unqualified singletons are quick to "diagnose" their exes, Stina Sanders, a leading relationship expert and author of A Woman's Guide To Identifying Red Flags, has revealed it's more likely that YOU'RE the problem.
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Stina, a leading voice in mental health and debunking modern relationship myths, spoke exclusively to Fabulous. Here she reveals why a change of perspective might help you find the love you deserve... SO YOUR ex didn’t buy you flowers and forgot your anniversary, he’s definitely a narcissist.
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The guy you were seeing who ghosted you after a few dates, must be an avoidant. And that guy you matched with? His slow replies and one-word answers are obviously a red flag. At least, according to TikTok. As a relationship therapist, I hate to break it to you, but your ex probably didn’t have a personality disorder or any attachment issues; he was probably just a bad boyfriend. Sure, you can blame and call him a red flag, but maybe the real issue in your love life... is you.
