I’m hetero-monogamous – here’s what that means
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‘Are you two going to f**k or what?’. This sudden outburst from my friend, though surprising, wasn’t unwarranted. I was on a girls’ trip when I met Camille*. We were thrust together some 6,000 miles away from home and the spark between us was immediate.
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There was something electrifying about the way her laugh filled the air, and every time her eyes met mine there was a warmth there that felt both foreign yet familiar. But it was after spending the evening dancing and laughing over drinks that the space between us slowly seemed to close until, finally, we were kissing under the flashing multicoloured nightclub lights.
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From that moment on, I’d felt this unbelievable pull towards her – something that must have been so glaringly obvious, which ultimately led to my friend’s outburst. It was clearly the push we both needed though as, on the last day of the trip, Camille and I slinked off for a private moment.
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But as her soft and inviting lips met mine again, a thought kept circling in my mind: ‘This doesn’t take anything away from my relationship with James.’. I’ve been with James, my 63-year-old boyfriend, for five years now, and while we’re deeply committed to each other, we’re also in what is known as a hetero-monogamous relationship.
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