I’m in an open marriage and have multiple lovers — my husband is happy with just me
I’m in an open marriage and have multiple lovers — my husband is happy with just me
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Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger. This week we hear from 29-year-old queer writer Leah*, who has been married to her husband, Jack*, for two years. The couple have an open marriage and have been in an ethical non-monogamous relationship (aka consensually open) since they started dating five years ago.
‘I had already expressed wanting to have an open relationship before we were a couple,’ Leah tells Metro. ‘I was clear that I enjoy dating. You get to meet people and explore, and I wanted to be able to still grab those opportunities. ‘It was new for Jack, but he liked the idea of having the freedom to connect with others and explore our own bodies, while keeping the trust between us.’.
Their ground rules include not having sex with any friend (theirs or each others), and not bringing someone back to their house unless the other person is away. Being in an open relationship means she communicates well with her boyfriend, says Leah – however, it’s not always been plain sailing. The pair did have to close their relationship for six months after Leah had sex with someone at a party.
‘I wasn’t very talkative about the hookup and Jack ended up feeling very bad,’ she explains. ‘One of our rules is that if one of us feels uncomfortable, then we get veto rights to close our relationship for a period of time – no questions asked. So we became monogamous until Jack felt ready again.’.
