I've been happily celibate by choice for four years - despite having a high sex drive. There's only one reason I would sleep with a man in 2025, writes GABRIELA JONES-PEREZ
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Four years ago I made a rather unusual New Year's resolution. Forget the usual commitments to lose weight, give up alcohol or get fit with a gym membership, I decided to have a man-tox, abstaining from men, sex and relationships for the foreseeable future.
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It may sound like a crazy idea considering I was 32 at the time, adore male company and would dearly love to get married and have children. So, why did I do it? Put simply, I was utterly worn out from stressful relationships and toxic dalliances that had left me emotionally spent. I had to give up men and sex so I could step back, detach and figure out how I was attracting a stream of Mr Wrongs.
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It was only, I reasoned, when lust and sex were removed from the picture that I would discern a path to true love. I embarked on my man-free life on January 11, 2021, and have been completely celibate by choice ever since. There have been challenges, of course – not least the many long nights when I yearned for a man's arms around me; when I longed to rest my head on a lover's chest after being intimate, feeling truly connected to someone.
The truth is that I really enjoy sex, and when I'm in a relationship I have a high sex drive. So there have been many moments in the past four years when having a man by my side is all I can think of. But in my experience, this deep desire can be as dangerous as it is wonderful. Poor decisions can be made in the throes of intense sexual need – like getting involved with the wrong men. It's far better to build a relationship slowly.
