My hubby & I have a bonking ban until Christmas Day – we’ll have sex at least six times, here’s why we do it
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SITTING at the kitchen table wrapping Christmas gifts, Jen Walker’s gaze falls upon their family calendar. Blocked out in fluorescent highlighter and decorated with little stars is the week starting Christmas Day. But this time of year holds an entirely different meaning for Jen, 27, and her husband, Rob, 28, because it marks the end of a sex ban and months of abstaining from intimacy.
![[Jen Walker and her husband Rob have been on a sex ban for months in the lead up to Christmas]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/3ed393b4-1928-4af4-a885-b7c9464caae4.jpg?strip=all&w=789)
“Christmas marks the end of our bonking ban,” Jen says, speaking exclusively to Fabulous. “We only have sex three times a year, on Christmas Day, and our birthdays in April and August.”. While the idea of having sex just a handful of times a year might signal the end of a loving relationship, for Jen and Rob, the anticipation makes their marriage better.
![[The pair will have sex at least six times on December 25]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/75d4a19f-94a4-479a-9e3f-c26f4afca763.jpg?strip=all&w=613)
“It is the secret to our loving relationship,” she says. “More people should try it. It keeps the sex spark alive and makes love making better. “I know the idea of only having sex at Christmas or birthdays bonkers. I don't care - it works for us.".
![[The couple limit their romps to just three times a year, on Christmas and their birthdays]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/7a41767a-7f64-4242-84a9-6eda962b3043.jpg?strip=all&w=559)
Despite their lack of all-year round sex, the couple even managed to conceive their four-year-old daughter Arabella on Christmas Day and the mum is now expecting again. Part-time admin manager Jen and IT project manager Rob, who live in Manchester, aren't alone in their ‘less sex and better intimacy’ approach.
![[They say saving sex improves its quality and makes it more special]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/f41d8512-00ad-4f79-a2ee-5cdfcde9225f.jpg?strip=all&w=704)
According to research, Gen Z - those born between 1997 and 2012 - are less sexually active than other generations were at their age. The U.S based Kinsey Institute for Sex Research study revealed one in four or 25% of Gen Z adults have never had sex and a third of Gen-Z say the closest they have got to it is via sexting, or virtual sex with a partner.
![[She and fiance Rob Walker conceived their daughter Arabella on Christmas Day]](https://www.thesun.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/2ca59286-13ab-4b25-92c3-25483b4057cb.jpg?strip=all&w=543)
