Finding out you've been cheated on is one of the most heart-breaking experiences a person can go through. If you're in what you believe to be a committed and happy relationship, finding out that your partner thinks differently can be devastating. Whether they're sneaking around with a friend or a colleague or just sleeping with people they don't know, getting cheated on is always difficult to process.

Cheating usually ends in a relationship breakdown, but one woman has said she wants to make her marriage work despite recently discovering that he's been unfaithful to her. The woman even believes she might be the one to blame for his wandering eye – despite people insisting that is not the case. In a post on Reddit, the mum-of-two explained she's been married to her husband for eight years, and while she "never imagined" wanting to stay in a relationship with a cheater before now, she also doesn't want to "lose her family".

What's more, she thinks that the lack of affection between them in recent months has contributed to her husband's decision to embark on a one-night stand – even though she's been rushed off her feet taking care of their two young children, so doesn't have the energy or drive for sex right now. She said: "I know there are no excuses for it. I could never imagine in my life staying with a cheater. But here I am, wanting to forgive and try to make this work. I know this is not my fault, but I have not been affectionate at all. There are weeks that go by when we don't even kiss or hug each other. We definitely have been in roommate mode for a while.

"He came crying to me today, confessing he slept with someone two weeks ago. Without writing the long story of how it came about, this was a one-night stand situation. He had no prior or past contact with this woman. He is begging to give him a second chance. I really am more upset thinking about losing my family than the act of cheating itself.". Commenters on the post were sympathetic to the woman's plight, but many said that if she doesn't want to give up on her relationship, then she and her husband need to seriously consider couple's therapy to help them work on their marriage.

One person said: "You're the only one that can make this decision. Get some counselling because it seems like you both may need it. In the end, it's really only up to you. Can you trust him, can you truly let it go and not use it in arguments, can you look at him and not see him cheating on you again?". Another added: "There are two main barriers to staying together after this: Whether you can truly forgive him and whether you can truly trust him again. Only you can answer those questions but don't assume either will be easy to do. Counselling is a must.".