It’s a real shame she won’t consider it because, as Keelan says, couples counselling is not about one partner being right and the other wrong, but “‘translating’ one person to the other in turn; that is, helping each person to hear what’s really being said, not what they expect to hear or think they already know.”.
She said: “You saying you have ‘frequent conflicts out of small things’ suggests it’s not the small things in your relationship that are the real problem, but the themes that underlie them.
When one partner locates all the blame (as seems to be happening here) and won’t try to resolve anything, and won’t even reply to emails (rude and very blocking), then the couple is, as you so aptly say, stuck.
But in reality it’s very rare that one individual is wholly responsible for the difficulties in a relationship.” It is important to try to resolve difficulties, she said.
We attended four or five sessions and when I thought we were moving in the right direction, my partner asked to stop.
