Voices: The only new year’s resolution you need is to dump some old friends
Voices: The only new year’s resolution you need is to dump some old friends
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January is a good time to ‘weed your circle’, says life coach Rhea Freeman – because, when it comes to faltering friendships, it’s not you, it’s them…. “New Year, New You”? For years, I felt I needed to be the one to change, and it’s something I, as a life coach, observe in many others. But what if, in fact, it’s not you – it’s them?.
What if you’re fine as you are, and it’s the people around you who are holding you back, negatively impacting your outlook, even preventing you from achieving what you’re meant to…? Maybe it’s your exposure to the wrong people that is what needs to change. Have you ever thought about that?.
Let’s think, in broad terms, about how what we expose ourselves to impacts us. If you immerse yourself in the worst news out there or spend hours doomscrolling on social media, how does it affect you? Do you feel sad that the world is going to hell and there’s nothing you can do about it? Does it play on your mind even when you’re not reading it? For most people, the answer is yes.
And now let’s apply this to friendships and our friendship circles. And, let’s be honest, how flipping hard these can be. As an adult, I find friendships difficult. Whether it’s because I feel a responsibility to my circle and I want to do my best to make sure I’m a good friend, whether I’m juggling all the things and terrified of dropping something, or whether I feel a lot of empathy towards those I care about, I don’t know. But what I do know is the quality of my friendships matters to me.
