I’m having hot sex with my PT and my husband is paying for it – I feel guilty but it’s all his fault
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STROLLING through the door of her home, arms laden with shopping bags, Eliza Gold feels a pang of guilt. Smiling at her husband James, she offers to show him her new shoes. He rolls his eyes and shakes his head, a familiarly dismissive gesture. But Eliza has been nowhere near a shop.
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She spent the afternoon in a five-star hotel, in bed with her lover — and her husband unknowingly paid the bill. It is not the first time she has used her well-off partner’s money to pay for a rendezvous with her personal-trainer boyfriend — there have been numerous hotel stays and dinners.
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The ruse has gone on for so long, Eliza now has a stash of shopping bags with “just bought” clothes hidden in her car boot, in case she has to explain where she has been. The retired author says: “I do feel guilty about cheating on James and lying to him about how I spend his money, but there’s no way I could admit to him I have stopped loving him and fallen for another man.
“He’d divorce me and I’d be left penniless. He’d take everything and I’d be homeless. The only way for me to be happy is to stay married, but have a lover. “I do feel guilty about cheating - I don’t hate my husband, but I feel so lonely and unloved in our marriage I feel it’s the only option for me.”.
Eliza is not alone, with one study finding that a staggering 40 per cent of those who cheat admit to using their partner’s money for expenses. Another study revealed a quarter of married couples, and 30 per cent of people in a committed relationship, say they are keeping a financial secret from their partner.
