'My husband's having an affair with a woman 20 years older than me'
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Dear Coleen. A few weeks ago, I found out my husband was having an affair. I’m 36, he’s 42, and the woman he’s been seeing is 56. We’ve been married for nearly three years, although we’d known each other for years before that. I discovered the affair when I started tracking his phone and then I took a phone call from a hotel, saying his “wife” had left her glasses in the room. Obviously, not mine, but the other woman’s.
He didn’t admit the affair at first, but then it all came out. She’s someone he met through his job and she’s divorced with grown-up kids. What broke my heart more than anything is that we both wanted kids, and we’d been trying for a baby and talking about it a lot, and now he’s run off with someone who’s too old to have them.
He’s destroyed everything we’ve built. It’s humiliating that he’s left me for a woman 20 years older, I feel embarrassed and angry. All I can think about is getting revenge, which I know isn’t healthy. He moved his stuff out of our house last weekend, while I was staying with my sister, and I haven’t spoken to him since.
There’s been no talk of reconciliation or counselling. I think he’s relieved it’s out in the open and is happy with his choice, and I wouldn’t have him back anyway. How can I move on from this mess?. Coleen says. Affairs are nearly always a symptom of something wrong in the relationship and maybe your husband was looking for a way out. Maybe it was the pressure of having a baby or something else but, whatever his reasons, he’s betrayed you and he’s gone.
